OBSCURITY

“I am no one – I am unimportant piece of shit. No one going to like me, no one wanted me in their life. No one cares about me.” He whispered to himself in agony as his tears runs down his face

The need to be recognized, to be appreciated, to be significant often lead to the feeling of obscurity. Is it really important to be appreciated or to be recognized? Is it really? According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs – it is important. It is classified under the need for self-esteem. It mingle with personal achievement, confidence and also people’s recognition. But which one come first?

Does other people’s recognition comes first and then it will affect our performance, achievement or confidence? Or is it the other way around? Honestly, I really hate those who crave for attention – someone who is expecting something out of nothing ; they barely do anything. Lately, I can see that this kind of things have become a trend mostly among youth on social media.

People wears a mask of lie so they look attractive , so be careful. – Muhammad Saqib

Take Instagram as example – often I see people even my closest friend posting a picture in which they are actually baiting for likes and comments. People posting a picture of how intimidate their relationship are, how good they are at something so faked that I can notice it straight away. “Wake up like this” – with a face full of make up and mascara ; come one – people are not that stupid to believe it. Do not make yourself looks like a fool – and feel sad if other people does not react to it or react in a different way from what you had expected.

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It is a vicious cycle a dark one. You may paint a picture perfect lifestyle on Instagram, but most people understand that you are only putting on a show. Putting on a show to get more likes tend to say more about the you rather than the depicted lifestyle does. Others will start asking questions like “Why is this person trying so desperately to paint this picture of a perfect life?” “Why are you doing this – we know you are not like that?” It will prompt dishonest appreciation.

Some people think that the truth can be hidden with a little cover-up and decoration. But as time goes by, what is true is revealed, and what is fake fades away. – Ismail Haniyeh

People desperately seeking attention and validation through social media are at risk of becoming victimized by themselves. Instead of becoming an elite class, the mainstream increasingly frowns at their desperation for likes and shares causing them to feel obscurity – to feel that no one appreciate them.

Many had fallen into this trap – mostly on social media. I had to admit that people wanted to look good in front of the others ; me too. But, being you – being honest and less fake does not make you look bad either. Show your true colors and people will appreciate the real you. It is like buying a new phone – no one prefer a fake iPhone ; the original always better.

At this rate it is possible that we will see a new divide emerge between people, where we on one hand will have a generation of social media fakers desperately screaming for approval, literally trying to keep up with the artist, the famous people – and on the other hand, we will have a class of creators, who are focusing their time and resources, not on shameless self-promotion, but on making stuff and creating real value, either for themselves or together with other like-minded doers.

Obscurity can be sort of motivation for us, a reminder for us to work harder – to perform better in anything that we do. A kick right in our butt hole – to make us move forward. A realization for us that other people’s recognition is not a free gift. It only can be received through hardship, sweat and blood. A real appreciation only meant for real people. So which one are you? The fake or the original.

 

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