I know that if I wanted to excel in life, self motivation is essential. I must learn the way on how to motivate myself. I must be able to keep my spirit high no matter how discouraging a situation is. That’s the only way to get the power I need to overcome difficulties. Those who are discouraged in difficult times are certain to lose even before the battle is over.
The question is: how do I keep motivating myself? I needed a plan. A long term plan of success.
I cannot think of a more powerful source of motivation than a cause you care about. Something that I wanted to strive for. Such cause can inspire you to give your best even in the face of difficulties. It can make you do the seemingly impossible things.
While other causes could inspire you temporarily, a cause that matters to you can inspire you indefinitely. It’s a spring of motivation that will never dry. Whenever you think that you run out of motivation, you can always come to your cause to get a fresh dose of motivation.
THE BIG DREAM
Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be – Karen Ravn
Cause is a powerful source of motivation but it is still abstract in nature. I need to make it concrete in the form of a dream. I need to visualize it. Imagine how the world will be in the future. Imagine how people will live and work.
Having a dream is important because it is difficult to be motivated if you do not have anything to shoot for. Just think about people who play football. Will they be motivated to play if there is no goal to aimed at? I don’t think so. They need a goal. You need a goal. That’s what your dream is for. Shoot for the goal you lazy asshole. But just having a dream is insufficient. Your dream must be big enough to inspire you. It must be realistic but challenging. It must stretch your ability beyond your comfort zone.
Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way – Les Brown
To be truly motivated, I need to have hunger and not just desire. Having mere desire would not take me through difficult times since I do not want things badly enough. In many cases, hunger makes the difference between the best performers and the mediocre ones.
How can you have hunger? Your cause and your dream play a big role here. If you have a cause you care about and a big dream related to it, you should have the hunger inside of you. If you think that you are losing hunger, all you need to do is to connect again to your cause and dream. Let them inspire you and bring the hunger back.
I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself – Mikhail Baryshnikov
I need to stop comparing myself with others. Comparing yourself with others is an effective way to demotivate yourself. Even if you start with enthusiasm, you will soon lose your energy when you compare yourself with others. Remember that everyone have their own race – their own goal. Stop minding about other people – work on yourself to achieve better.
Do not let that happen to you. You have your own race so how other people perform is irrelevant – it is bullshit. Comparing yourself with others is like comparing the performance of a cyclist with a runner using the same time standard. Not everyone facing the same obstacle. They are different so how can you compare one with the other?
The only competitor you have is yourself. I know that the only one I need to beat is me. Have you become the best you can be?
THE EXTRA STEP
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts – Winston Churchill
When you meet obstacles along the way, there could be the tendency to quit. You may think that it is too difficult to move on. You may think that your dream is impossible to achieve. But this is where you can see the difference between winners and losers. Though both of them face the same difficulties, there is one thing that makes the winners different: the courage to continue.
In difficult situations, I just need focus on taking one more step forward. Do not think about how to complete the race. Do not think about how many more obstacles are waiting for me. Just focus on taking the next step. Focus on what in front of me.
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Believe it or not, one of the best de-motivators is your past. Your past can drag you down before you realize it. Your past can give you a heavy burden on your shoulders. The good news is it is a burden you do not have to carry. Take it off your shoulder and leave it. You might make mistakes in the past. You might disappoint others with what you did. But it is over. It is already in the past and there is indeed nothing you can do about it except for avoiding doing the same mistakes.
Today is a new day and I have the chance to start again. No matter how bad my past might be, I know that there is a bright future ahead waiting for me. Just do not let the burden of the past stop me.